Revenge Porn.

“My Ex Tried Blackmailng Me with my Sex Tape”

Maybe I should start my own “Keeping Up with the”… never mind!

At first I was very hesitant to post this then realized REVENGE PORN IS REAL.

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STORY TIME: I received a Direct Message Request on Instagram from my ex randomly.  Now normally when faced with this sort of situation I just deny the request and block immediately!

Yet, there was a photo and video attached? Instagram blurred the images attached to the message, so in order to see the photo I had to approve it.

It’s me! Naked!

Along with the photo is a long threatening paragraph name calling and bashing me,

“You’re such a hoe”

“Look how much of a slut you are”

“I can’t believe you dumped me, b*tch!”

“You ugly piece of..”  

Anywho, underneath the paragraph was also a “short film” of mine. Ending his long rant was what really made my jaw drop…

“I can’t wait to show everyone how much of a hoe you really are.”

Now, I’m a very open individual  so the thought of him “exposing” me wasn’t very alerting. I thought to myself, I’m an adult. I’m a woman, a very strong woman at that.

There’s nothing my abuser can say or do to me anymore to make me feel “intimidated” or “scared”.

I knew this was just another one of his manipulative tactics. A plea for attention as well as a way to feel some sort of “control” over me. He thought by threatening to “expose” me that it would make me feel ashamed of myself, make me feel discouraged, make me beg for him not to do it. Yet, it didn’t.

Ironically it did the exact opposite? It actually made me feel nothing? If anything I felt grateful?

Grateful that I wasn’t in a relationship with someone like that anymore, someone willing to “expose” a woman who dumped him (almost two whole years ago) just to be malicious and hurt me.

I felt liberated and empowered because even after reading his disrespectful threatening rant, I didn’t let it “get to me”. I’m even sitting here typing this for the world to see.

Now if you are like me and have sent anything sexual, recorded anything sexual about yourself or engaging in acts with others and someone is threatening to “expose you” here’s what I told myself:

Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed.

A person “exposing” someone’s personal business (or threatening to) is not only immature, but also is a criminal offense. You are a human being, being sexual is nothing to be ashamed of. Don’t feel “exposed”. Although building confidence in yourself takes time, it’s in fact possible.


Revenge porn is never okay and there is no excuse for a person releasing things that are meant to be private.

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Click the link on “What to Do if You Are a Victim of Revenge Porn”

https://fraudsupport.org/incidents/revenge-porn/

 

 

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