Being a Mom is difficult enough, and being a single teen mom…. Even harder.
I once was a pregnant, single, nervous, teenager sleeping on the couch in my best friend’s apartment. I had just got out of
- the most traumatic abusive FAKE-ationship (because abusive relationships are not what REAL relationships are supposed to be)
- my very first and only “relationship”
Making me extremely anxious, depressed, and confused for the year(s) to come.
The New Year is supposed to be a time of positivity, fresh starts, new year’s resolutions.
Yet this new year’s outlook was full of worrisome thoughts for the future.
I had just made the biggest step possible, exiting an abusive relationship.
All I could think about for the new year is, what’s next?
For those of you who are pregnant ringing in this new year, here are some things that I would go back and tell my young pregnant teenage self:
There’s no way to sugar coat it, things happen in life. Did I think I would get into a dangerous toxic FAKE-ationship? No! Did I think I would be pregnant at only 19 years old? Nope! Yet things happen and all you can do is accept them, adjust to them, and move forward.
Take your time
You have 365 days, sometimes 366, each year to
- start fresh.
- try again
That’s plenty of time! Rushing into a relationship is what led me to a severely traumatic experience. Rushing is what changed my entire life, permanently. Take your time, take your time, take your time! We have LOTS of time. So take your time… Did I mention that we have lots of time? Oh yeah, and take your time!
Let go of the past
This is the most important piece of advice I can give. The past is behind us literally and metaphorically. The past will always be that, the past. You can be sad, you can regret, yet that’ll never change what’s happened. We can never change the past, what we can do is change our future. We can change what we want for ourselves!
So if you’re bringing in this new year remember the past is the past, leave it there.
This is your year, and so is the next, and the next, and the next!
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