Now I know what you may be thinking but no, please save the congratulations because we are actually jumping into a time machine back to December 2014. This is indeed when I was a pregnant, single, nervous, teenager sleeping on the couch in my best friend’s apartment. I had just got out of the most traumatic abusive FAKE-ationship, my very first “relationship” at that, and I was definitely nervous about the new year(s) to come.
The New Year is supposed to be a time of positivity, fresh starts, new year’s resolutions. Yet this new year’s outlook was full of worrisome thoughts for the future. I had just made the biggest step possible, exiting an abusive life threatening relationship. All I could think about for the new year is, what’s next?
For those of you ringing in this new year of 2017, here are some things that I would go back and tell my young pregnant teenage self:
- Things happen
There’s no way to sugar coat it, things happen. Did I think I would get into a dangerous toxic FAKE-ationship? No! Did I think I would be pregnant at 19? Hell no! Yet things happen and all you can do is adjust to them and move forward.
- Take your time
You have 365 days, sometimes 366, each year to change/improve/start fresh. That’s plenty of time! Rushing into a relationship is what led me to a severely traumatic experience. Rushing is what changed my entire life, permanently. Take your time, take your time, take your time! Did I mention that we have lots of time?
- Let go of the past
This is the most important piece of advice I can give. The past is behind us literally and metaphorically. The past will always be that, the past. You can be sad, you can regret, yet that’ll never change what’s happened. We can never change the past, what we can do is change our future.
So if you’re bringing in this new year of 2017 remember the past is the past, leave it there. 2017 is your year, and so is the next, and the next, and the next!